An uncomfortable subject
One thing I’ve noticed on social media, and even here on Substack to a lesser extent, Is the idea of tit for tat.
A social contract of a sort that says you read my stuff, I’ll read your stuff. You share my stuff, I’ll share your stuff.
It seems to work well, until we give love to someone’s work and they don’t reciprocate.
And then we feel hurt and resentful. Like our time and effort was wasted.
It’s not just on Social Media, but in all aspects of life. Business, friendship, even marriage.
And if this has been you, that’s OK. Because I’ve been there too.
We make promises, do our best to live up to them, and get hurt and upset when others fail to the same.
But what we need to realize is that with these expectations we only hurt ourselves.
We can’t ever know what is going on in other peoples’ lives.
All we can know is that they don’t want to or they don’t feel that it is possible to keep their promise.
And if that is true, then why would we want them to, even If it would seem to cause injury to ourself?
The truth is that by seeking to injure them with our thoughts, we succeed only in injuring ourselves.
Give up expectations. And just give.
Give because it brings joy.
Give because it spreads happiness.
Give because it is your nature.
Give because it is who you are.
Peace, Love and a virtual hug!
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I give because it's who I am. I like a post and share writing and art because it speaks to me. It can be that way in relationships. That can be difficult if a friendship is one sided, continuously and that isn't a friendship anymore. There are people that have no more to give though
This was a wonderful read, Aaron. I have long wondered how others read and comment and share and keep up with so much information 🤯!!! If I try to do that, I tend to blow a fuse. I choose to give by offering my work and connecting and sharing when someone inspires and energizes my response. This way feels most sustainable and honest for me.